THE SEARCH FOR serenity does not lead us to a
state of full-time bliss. The idea that we
should never have a bad day is another of our
unrealistic expectations. No one, no matter
how hard they're "working the program," has a
good day every day. Who knows what the
trigger is? Maybe it's gloomy weather or
hormones or a skipped breakfast. But the fact
is that we all feel down sometimes.

Emotional stability is an important component
of self-esteem. Wild mood swings and chronic
crankiness are symptoms of deeper disorders
that need attention. Often, deeply buried anger
is the wellspring of the attitudinal misery that
is bubbling up. Work with a counselor or
support group can usually relieve such unhappy,
long-term conditions.

But for the ordinary ups and downs of life,
good old-fashioned acceptance is the best
remedy we've got. Even people with naturally
cheerful dispositions and even tempers get up
on the wrong side of the bed once in a while.
While we strive for emotional balance, we
need to remember that stable and static aren't
the same thing; our goal is an acceptable,
comfortable range.

The upside is that bad days are just as fleeting as good days.

An excerpt from the book
Believing in Myself, Daily Meditations
for Healing and Building Self-Esteem
Earnie Larsen & Carol Hegarty

Backgrounds, buttons and bars provided by: